UPDATE! the class is tonight, Wednesday October 2!!! Still a few spots left.
Well written article about an amazing actress.
She realized she was dating a vegan Feminist pussy who threw a hissy fit watching a goddamn movie- and then wrote a review where he compared frying a cheeseburger to raping a woman.
Such a whiner should have enough money to spend on a hotel/hostel/airbnb accommodation! BEGGARS CAN'T BE CHOOSERS!!! If he didn't like the first night, then he should have taken his whiny ass and his girlfriend to another place. He should just be thankful that somebody offered a safe place to sleep in and a roof over his head. Count your blessings! Gratitude is a good attitude!
Agreed. Eric sounds like a terrible boyfriend! Why doesn't he make the goddamned sandwich sometime. It wouldn't matter if the genders were flipped, ordering your S/O around is a terrible thing to do. Do it yourself, or at least ask nicely!
Everyone uses their feet. Sorry Virginia :(
" I once tried to explain why I like raising my children in New York by saying that I want them to take the extraordinary for granted."
Not me. I want to be always in awe, and I want my kid to be as well. And I always am. And I will never leave, either. There is work to be done and awe to be had.
Kardos is spot on. "youve been completely cognitively captured by the elite, and youre using your skills as a writer to perversely turn their destruction into something romantic. shame on you." (sic)
"I once tried to explain why I like raising my children in New York by saying that I want them to take the extraordinary for granted. I want them to feel ownership of some of the most amazing things in the world."
Great article Kristin, the only places that I've ever felt grounded are in the wilderness or in my home Brooklyn, historically transitional, a place of extremes, the best and the worst of life.
Born in Queens, I left NYC before it was cool to leave NYC. In 1999 I was 35 and tired of the city kicking my ass up and down the Ave. every fucking day. Fuck NY. Other than 4 good months, all you have left is corrupt cops, insane rents, icy sidewalks in the winter and shit smell in the summer. You used to have danger and excitement. Now everything is pre-chewed. There was a time when NY was for NYers. That time is long gone.
Derrick Kardos hit it right on the head with his comment. The author should be ashamed of this piece-- it smacks of wealth, privilege, and the complete lack of empathy for the numerous folks who live in NYC who struggle to maintain on a basic level day in, day out.
Thank you for the information. Another great post is below.
Native NYer who left for 36 years, never thought I'd return and then did. all financial progress made outside this city. couldn't manage the money then and can barely now, and im not a borough snob or trend freak. its good to leave. other cities and countries have different stuff to offer, different energy, and thats okay. do research, take trips, ask friends. but someone needs to stay, to fight against the glass towers, the neighborhood destruction, the retail homogenization thats killing this city.
Kristin, I enjoyed this. It would have fit right into Goodbye to All That, the anthology I edited, and which you mentioned here - because the book doesn't only contain essays by people who have left New York. Several authors included in the book came back after leaving, or never left. I wanted to get great writers' perspectives on loving and leaving NYC, whether or not they decided to leave, and even if their perspective on the leaving part was "Hell, no!" A couple contributors write about how they'd never want to leave again. A good number of the essays are love letters to the city, including mine. Here in the mid-Hudson Valley, I miss the city something awful. Check the book out. http://goodbyetonycbook.com
I am a Brooklynite of 14 years..NYC will always be NYC and for those that move here expecting the city owes one something, it doesn't. Like London, Paris and LA, it's what you make of it allowing the city to grow and that is missing. But I hear it's everywhere else so I'm sure NYC will be great again in this new century because...It's New York!!!
NY goes through stages. At one moment fashionable and then unfashionable, but it's always in style. It's much better when there's less people treating it like a fetish or a theme park and not simply a great city to live in. But it's always great. A city that's even better to keep arriving at, so it has time to molt and surprise the cynical again, and sometimes that requires leaving every once in a while. There's nothing wrong with breaking your own bubble every once in a while, as you'll always bring something back in. It also helps if you have your family and friends and memories or storage units or real estate tied to there, to make it always your home. But then again, you can always take it with you as well.
Thank you Kristin...this article couldn't have come at a better time in my life.
New York is a love affair that broke my heart! New York is an addiction that left me dirty and track marked! No, as the author is saying, New York is a city. Making a life here is up to you. Failures in that area are a reflection of your own ability and luck. That's how life works. Yes, there have been recent policies that have not had a positive impact on the city, but those same trends are reflected in the country at large --we have an equality gap that is getting worse, not better. But I live in New York on what is not a lot of money, and I go to restaurants and gallery openings and have a nice purse just fine.
After 22 years in NY I find the people who want to stay here tend to be the ones who grew up in families near here (so NY life is the norm), who are deeply tied to their jobs, have rent stabilized apartments or have been here for less than 15 years. Many have had serious love affairs with the city for many, many years then it becomes like a girlfriend you love that doesn't make you happy anymore. Your heart gets rusted and you only have a thimbleful of patience. Blinders you built to protect yourself become walls. You drink to stay. Most are overworked and underpaid. Survival becomes the norm. I don't really agree with the idea that people who leave never really loved it, but I do understand the notion that maybe it was never real to them (because they are not from the tri-state area) and that they were only visiting, sometimes for a very, very long time.
But the whole income inequality situation in NY has just gotten obscene and offensive. As Bloomberg put it in NY Mag, NY is a luxury brand. Bo-ring and very, very troubling as it does not account for most NYers, who even if they work in the city now have to live in the outer, outer boroughs whether they like it or not. (Nothing against the outer boroughs btw, just saying NYC proper is a joke economically as are many of the spots close to it near trains.) Though NY still has many of the diverse, creative and progressive elements that make it special they are now in those outer boroughs (go De Blasio!) not in NYC proper which is primarily bankers, tech people and rent stabilized apt dwellers. Once you cheat on NY with other (cheaper) cities, other countries for extended periods where quality of life is more of a priority and how much money you make and what you do and your ego less of one you realize NY is not the "center of the universe." You don't realize the difference until you leave for awhile and go some place you like. The world is a very, very big place. As it has been said many times before NY is a drug/an addiction for many which is hard to quit, hence the love/hate relationship so many people have with it. That's also why so many find it hard to leave. And addiction, after many years, isn't really very fun and generally doesn't make for happy campers.
I adore walking through Washington Square Park every morning and being whacked about the face by the smell of urine. Smells like victory!
I'm a born and bred New Yorker. Raised here, lived here all my life but for a few years when i attended college. You never get NYC out of your system but NYC gets you out of its'. There comes a point, which you seem to forget, that some of us no longer have the resources you do to live even a halfway decent life in NYC. Even my formerly "bad" neighborhood is no longer affordable. You seem to ignore the economics except for a cheap aside re the middle class. I grew up in NYC where there was a huge middle class buffer between the very rich and the very poor. Millions of people grew up in this city, had great childhoods, great educations,and lived in decent neighborhoods - all without being either very rich or very poor. If you were not aware of that, your disneyfied concept of the city you claim to love is very lacking. I moved out- not because i gave up on NYC, or love it less, but because it gave up on me and people like me. Your article was an exercise is stroking your own ego- you know so little about the real NYC that's it's a travesty to call yourself a New Yorker.
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