Wow! Breathing a sigh of relief just knowing that one person will publicly stand up for the victim of rape. Rarely does a rape victim speak up because of fears, conditiong by our culture and media reminding us what happends if you do say a word. Worse, when it's incest, who will listen? Who will believe? Certainly not the parent who values her husband, her brother, her son and herself above the victim, too much at stake to act on such an accusation as this. When it's a church member, same thing, who will believe it? I have seen it in other families. I have seen it in faith based "residential homes for wayward teens". I have seen it in my own family. Very few victims ever find their voice, the victim has to be strong enough and willing to lose family, church members or any other social circle the peadophile and victim belongs to, to bring accusations against the rapist. I know too many rape victims who have never gone to authorities for many reasons as mentioned in this article. For most of us, by the time we find our voice, it's too late when the statute of limitations has expired. People need to educate themselves on the statistic, few are raped by a stranger. To rape a stranger is too risky, the victim most likely will report it immediatly, having the evidence on hand, to be tried and convicted if the victim is able to escape alive. This type of rape is rare, the victim has nothing to lose, no love loss, with no emotional ties to a stranger rapist. Most rapes occure by someone known to the victim usually someone we are suppose to love and trust, hard to turn someone you love in for rape, hard to be shamed and blambed by the rest of the family who is suppose to love and support you, so we live in the shadows alone knowing the truth. What I know about this subject and the many victims and the many rapists, leaves me to suspect anyone who ignores or deny any of this to be true are most likely someone I would NOT trust around my own children and grandchildren. If those who disagree out of sheer ignorance, then educate yourself before taking any personal defense. And further more, ask yourself "what would I do if my daughter or son claims rape by the dad, a brother, cousin, grandpa or uncle?" This is reality.
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