thats funny, my girlfriend won't do vanilla until she has completed decimated my control system by tying me down and tickling me til I am screaming for mercy. afterwards we have the best time possible, but getting there has its price. It turns me on to see her get turned, so you're right, that give and take is what's up, but be sure you can stand the heat because desire is a funny thing, it can only be regulated by the host.