I love sex, but I don’t think it loves me. I get urinary tract infections all the time, and they really, really suck. They usually coincide with a new partner, or if I’ve broken a dry spell or whatever, but definitely from sex. I use a condom and everything. Any advice? (I’m in college and a girl.)
Two things before we start. One, I’m not a doctor, so don’t sue me if your junk falls off. Two, anyone who doesn’t want to talk bladder infections, now would be the time to stop reading. Skip down to the next question if you would like to keep the female urinary tract cloaked in mystery. Anyway. So, UTIs. Most ladies get sex-induced UTIs at some point, or at least most of the ladies I know have. They’re like an STD that you give yourself. Yay!
My advice to you is three-pronged. Prong one: always get up to pee RIGHT after you finish doin’ it. Always. If you don’t have to pee, make yourself pee. As far as I understand it, UTIs come from bacteria getting shoved up your pee hole and taking root, so flush those little guys right back out.
Prong two: liquids. Make sure you’re hydrated and make sure you use enough lube. Dryness in any of your areas makes for a UTI playground. Prong three involves asking your doctor for a low-dose antibiotic you can take right after (perhaps while you are in the bathroom peeing,) or any time you’re getting that sort of uh-oh feeling downstairs. “As needed,” is how we say it in the biz. I’ve used Macrobid. It’s a magical pill that banished UTIs
from my land forever (knock wood).
You could also try cranberry pills, though I don’t know how much those work. According to the internet — yes, I did research, sort of — there have been two recent studies that suggest cranberry can help prevent bacteria from sticking to the wall of the bladder. Personally, I’ve always mentally put cranberry in the “couldn’t hurt” pile, and to my knowledge it never has.
Also, ladies, listen up. Probably all of you UTI veterans know this already, but just in case: if you get an infection, during that awful time before the antibiotics start working, you should go to the drug store and get yourself some Uristat, aka the orange pee medicine. It turns your pee orange! Which can be fun for the whole family. But more importantly, it takes away the horrible, horrible burny/bloaty/achy feeling. That is the sum wealth of UTI knowledge I have collected over the years. May it bring you joy.
Is it true that too much masturbation can make a man lose sensation in his weenis? So much so that he can no longer enjoy sex with a woman? Unless she’s really tight? I whack off a lot, which is why I ask.
You’re in luck, my friend. According to Stephen W. Leslie, MD, a doctor who lives on the internet, “Masturbation does not ‘desensitize’ the penis.” Looks like you’re not the only dude in the world furiously beating off. I love how so many guys worry about this. I mean, sure, yeah, I can understand the mechanics of what you’re getting at. But, no offense, maybe wait until you’re with a lady/fellow who is interested in having sex with you and see if it’s a problem then. Perhaps you will be surprised at what your little guy is capable of! On the other hand, maybe Doc Leslie is wrong and it will feel like fucking a roast beef sandwich someone threw in the microwave for a few seconds. You won’t know until you try. If it’s a problem, write me back and we’ll work on it together. •