I think it would be really hot to be able to deep throat my boyfriend, but every time I try I quickly get gaggy and chicken out. I've heard that you can use some kind of numbing throat spray to suppress your gag reflex temporarily. Is this dangerous in any way? Is there anything else I should try instead?
It turns out that there are a few different schools of thought on this matter. Is the phrase "schools of thought" overstating the seriousness with which people have considered throat spray for face fucking? Maybe!
Nonetheless, some people believe that it's dangerous to get in the habit of using any kind of topical numbing agents to make sex easier. According to them, pain is your body's way of alerting you to possible injury, and so taking away your ability to feel pain creates a situation where you could be unintentionally really hurting yourself. I am definitely on board with this line of thinking when it comes to something like anal sex, but I'm not sure I see it with a blowjob. I mean, it's not pain, exactly, but a gag reflex, and what damage could a dick do to a person's throat? It seems like the dick would be more liable to be injured in that fight. I accidentally swallow scratchy, not-fully-chewed corn chips with a disturbing regularity, and while it definitely hurts going down it has yet to cause any permanent damage.
Which does bring me to one valid point that the anti-throat spray contingent makes: depending on what kind of numbing spray you're using, it can stay on the back of your throat and, as the guy's dick rubs against it, numb his dick. Not necessarily bad or harmful, but certainly a possibility to be aware of. I feel like a surprise numb dick would be terrifying. I, at least, would immediately assume I was having a cardiac episode and insist on being taken to the hospital, which is the opposite of what I presume you're going for.
Personally, I think that anti-throat spray people are just sticklers for hard work and practice and frown on throat spray because it is a short cut. To learn how to deep throat for real, you can try better positioning. Lying on the bed to make your throat straight—that is supposed to make it easier for the dick to go in. Also, apparently, when you feel the urge to gag you should just push the penis in deeper and once your throat realizes you're not choking it will relax (easier said then done, maybe?).
I'll tell you what, though, even if that is true about the gagging, it is making me gag a little right now just thinking of it. As someone who often gags at the dentist, I just don't know. So much of gagging is mental. If you're sitting there fighting your gag reflex, are you really going to be able to enjoy that you're deep throating someone? I know practice makes perfect and whatever, but to my mind using the throat spray at first might help you get over the mental hump, and then gagging won't be such a big deal. So I guess I'm coming down on the side of the pro-sprayers.
I think the possibility of actually barfing on someone's dick is relatively small. But injuring your throat also seems like a small possibility. So if the throat spray helps you relax, I would try it.