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How to Write an Effective Missed Connection
1. Make it specific. If you actually think you may have found—and promptly lost—the love of your life, try to recreate as much detail as possible about the moment you clapped eyes on each other. What you look like, what he or she was wearing, the location, the time of day and something charming to reel them in. Make everyone reading this message wish it were written for them. To this end, hold back on any reservations you may have at this stage. There will be plenty of time after you’re married to tell her you hate her skirt.
2. If you are just trying to get laid, make your message as bland and generic as possible. If you’re going the vague route, feel free to copy and paste the following: “I saw you breathing the other day. You were really hot. Let’s get coffee.”
3. Whether specific or vague, you will vastly increase your chances if you run your message through spellcheck. “Hot gril on train” may not, in fact, be what you’re looking for.
4. The Missed Connections section of Craigslist is not the place for chain letters or angry, pleading messages to your ex-boyfriend, or for trying to sell your used boxer shorts.
5. Don’t write poetry. For everyone’s sake.
Sophie Blackall has been illustrating Missed Connection messages for the past three years. The best of these have been collected in a book called Missed Connections, Love, Lost and Found, published by Workman.
illustration Sophie Blackall