The End of the Affair?
by Audrey FerenceDear Audrey,
I’ve been married for four years, and for the first three, it was total heaven. My wife is very understanding, lets me do things all the other girls I have dated wouldn’t, and is a musician like me — we have a great time.
A little over a year ago, I met this woman at a party (I’m 33, btw, my wife 27), flirted, kissed briefly and two weeks later met and hooked up. I wanted to make very clear that I was married, that there was no romance in sight, that if she wanted to fuck me, so be it. She agreed.
Holy shit, HOT sex! Her pussy is the right size and feel for me, we fucked a lot, and we got involved a little more than just fucking. It was great for a year and three months.
My thing about this woman is that she’s a mind fuck for me: she’s intelligent, smart, firm, and she teaches me a lot of things. She is a painter and, well, like I said, a mind fuck — I love her brain and her pussy.
Now, the relationship with this other woman has changed, we don’t fuck as much, and I feel a little contempt from her towards me, mainly because I don’t “know” as much stuff as she does. Funny, it’s the same way I feel toward my wife! But I am going to stay with my wife, because, well, she’s my woman.
I guess my question is, should I keep or dump this other woman, knowing that I’ll be giving away the best cumming ever, OR do I just take her shit in stride, not pay attention, and whenever she wants to fuck me, just fuck, like in the past?
(Readers: typically I’ll edit these down to give myself space to yammer, but I thought it would be a crime not to share all 287 words of this glorious question.)
And to you, sir, I have to say, wow. Quite the pickle you’ve gotten yourself into here. Right off the bat, I’m going to guess that you and I are at odds about the whole marriage thing.
Don’t get me wrong — I’m not married, I certainly don’t believe that monogamy is the only way to be married, or that people should necessarily even get married. But I do think that unless you and your wife have some kind of agreement about extramarital fucking (which maybe you do, I mean, you only had 287 words to explain the situation), it’s not that cool to be banging (and having relationships with!) other ladies.
Especially since you say you feel contempt for her, but will stay with her because she is “your woman.” You know? Not exactly right-on thinking in my book. Anyway, that’s not even your question. You want to know whether to dump your girlfriend because she thinks you’re dumb.
The funny thing about you is that it sounds like you think with your dick, but your dick is actually kind of an intellectual.
Anyway, advice: I think it’s generally a challenge to scale back to “just fucking” once you’ve been at “relationship” for over a year. It sounds to me like you and your girlfriend might be done with each other.
And some unsolicited advice for everyone: if you don’t want to be married to your wife anymore, don’t be, but don’t treat her like shit. People, listen up. It is perfectly awesome to not be into monogamy, but please, can you just be a mature truthful adult about it and find partners that are cool with it? That would be great. Thanks
