Dear Audrey,
I thought I could come up with a clever intro, but alas, I suppose that is part of my problem. I'm a 29-year-old man, an aspiring writer and mayor, among other things, happily, openly married with a gorgeous baby boy at home. So here is my issue: lately I've gotten some fairly dull but pretty lucrative writing work and I've come down with a massive case of writer's block. Now, the only proven solution for my writer's block is sex. My wife and I are happy, but her libido has never been as active as mine, which is one of the reasons our marriage is open. And dull "duty" sex, for lack of a better word, just won't cut it. I used to have a wonderful friend-with-benefits situation, but she's recently unavailable. So, I was hoping to meet someone new, who shares chemistry with me, is comfortable with my situation (as I'm not big on lying for sex, believe it or not), and whom I'm obviously attracted to. I'm happy to try the internet but know that I'm a little fish in a huge fucking sea. And to add to it (and perhaps where you're most uniquely able to assist), I have always been extremely attracted to redheads, but have only been with one in my past. So, what I'm asking is, do you have any suggestions for places online or otherwise where I may be able to find my redhead mistress or any suggestions as to how I should design my approach? Do you towheads find guys who share my fancy creepy? Flattering? Annoying? Is there any approach I should be wary of?

For starters, this word, towhead. I do not think it means what you think it means. First step to being a famous writer and/or mayor: access a dictionary.

Anyway, I am sharing this specific and looooong question with all of you because, believe it or not, I get asked variations of this quite often. "Where can I meet cool redheads who want to fuck me?" and/or "What do redheads like/dislike/want?" I don't get it. Do you think we all know each other or something? Like there's some sort of clubhouse where we brush each other's fiery locks and have lingerie pillow fights? There is not. Unfortunately. In fact, we are just people, who all feel differently about hair and politics and men and women and you know, the same as how blonds and brunettes are, but cuter. (Hair burn!)

The other reason I wanted to answer this question for the group is because I think there's a perception among some that finding an NSA sex partner who is extremely attractive to you both physically and mentally is like way easier than finding a relationship partner. I do not think this is the case. As you say, Mayor Hornball, you are a small fish in a big pond. I'm afraid this is just the reality of human relations.

I think it's awesome that you and your wife are cool about fulfilling both your needs, and it's definitely correct that any potential fuck-buddy be aware of your deal. But it may just take some time and work searching for the right person. My recommendation for that is, sorry, the internet. Craigslist or maybe Adult Friend Finder. In the meantime, of course, you can just bone any interested parties, so life is not so bad.