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And then there was the gay party I was invited to, through word of mouth, in which naked men roamed around having sex, enjoying fisting contests and live sex acts on stage. Speaking of live sex acts, gay party planner Daniel Nardicio explained his entertainment preferences to me: "More macabre... unusual events are what I prefer... with one-legged, flipper-arm performers." He went on to describe a party he once had with avant performer Narcissister, who entered the room with nothing but an Afro wig on. Naked, she pulled shoes out of her wig and put them on her feet. From her vagina she then tugged out a chiffon skirt and a shirt, which she slowly put on while dancing to the song, "I'm Every Woman." "A reverse strip tease," said Nardicio.
Another evening, I went to Suspension, an S&M party. Mistress Trish greeted me at the door and slapped my ass with a whip, "Welcome to the dungeon!" Bodies were wrapped in leather and chains. A topless woman was tied up and suspended as a man slapped her breasts with paddles. Another man, "The Human Carpet" lay on a ground dressed like a rug, relishing his fetish for being stepped on.
Others had themselves placed in a VacBed, which is like a body-sized latex condom that you seal yourself in, using a snorkel to breathe. These "beds" are connected to machines that suck the air out of the latex bag, so you become vacuum-sealed, like a sausage in plastic packaging. This is meant to give people a euphoric full-body high. Personally, I felt claustrophobic in the VacBed, my lack of comfort mitigated only by my friends' comments: "Look, she's getting swallowed by a human-sized condom!" I almost choked on the snorkel because I kept laughing. And contrary to what many may assume, it was all good (if painful) play but no sex.
As I alluded to above, erotic swinger sex clubs are always at the risk of being shut down, which is probably why there are very few in New York (only two that I can think of). The New York Sanitary Code bars establishments that have facilities available for anal, vaginal intercourse and fellatio, and was originally enacted to close gay "sex clubs and bath-houses... to curb the AIDS epidemic," according to Sex Kitten. However, the Health Department allows "roaming parties," which makes the above nomadic sex/erotic events legal. Note that Sex Kitten, an attorney, has been working with Constitutional scholars to revise or repeal the Code. It could lead to the birth of some incredible NYC sex clubs.
From masks to beatings to live sex, you can pretty much find anything in NYC by talking to the locals and getting active online. So please don't complain that NYC's erotic nightlife is dead. There's a lot going on out there, in many different flavors. And now you know where to start looking. In the words of Mistress Goose, "If you want to get whipped, strangled, loved, massaged, tickled, you can find anything here—just get to know the people at the party."