Foreskin Lament

09/26/2012 4:00 AM |

Dear Audrey,
I can’t stop thinking about my penis. I’m of Christian descent—I’m not religious or anything, but my folks are vaguely Catholic—and I was circumcised. I know that lots of American guys are, even if they’re not Jewish. But I can’t stop obsessing about my missing foreskin. Whenever I think about it, I get so mad. I know there’s nothing that I can do about it, really, but I am spending a lot of time online, looking at uncut penises and thinking about how different it would feel if I had that extra bit of skin. How can I get over this? It’s affecting my sex life.

I assume, if you are this obsessed about it, then you know about those people who put the weights on their dicks to restretch out their foreskins? And that there is a surgery that they can do now where they graft the skin back on from some other place on your body? It sounds like a pretty involved surgery, but you only get one dick in this life, and if you’re unhappy, then it could be worth thinking about.

Based on the horrifying pictures I accidentally saw while researching this answer for you, there’s a bunch of different dick-skin stretchers on the market these days, not just like razor strops and barbells, or whatever unhappily circumcised men used back in olden times. I doubt they’re comfortable but neither are braces, right? And your penis is probably up there with your teeth in importance and frequency of use.

I also read on the Internet about artificial foreskins they make these days that you can get installed. I doubt any potential sex partner could say no to a bionic penis. But, again, if this is something you’ve been thinking about seriously, I have to assume you’ve researched and rejected these options. It sounds to me like you might benefit from talking to someone.

Clearly, there is more to what you are experiencing than just a desire for fuller sensation. I am not going to wade into the circumcision debate at the moment for the same reason I don’t jump the fence at the zoo and start jabbing at the lions with a chopstick. However, it’s clear that something major happened to your penis at a young age, and it’s causing you distress. Talking to a therapist, especially one that specializes in sexual issues, could help you get to the core of your concerns and determine an appropriate course of action.

If you don’t have health insurance and can’t afford to see someone, or if you’re just not there yet, you should explore some of the support groups and such based around penis restoration. It seems like NORM (the National Organization of Restoring Men) is the big one, but the Internet is awash with places where men congregate to talk about their foreskins, if my cursory googling is any indication.

Seeing that other people share your feelings and talking to those people might do you a lot of good, and it will definitely be a place where you can find out more about the various options available for rehooding and their pros and cons. Just be prepared to look at lots of gruesome images of guys’ dicks being pulled and twisted every which way. Images that you will never really be able to unsee. So good luck, and thank you for that, also.